I am an enneagram type 5. An INTJ 5.
The 2w1 held me back. I relied on the 2w1. We don’t see eye to eye and there are frequent misunderstandings. I seem able to understand them more than they can understand me, despite numerous explanations.
The 9 numbed their emotions and only allowed explosive anger to surface.
The 4s… it never ended well. I’m always intrigued by 4s and feel like I have a lot to learn from them. They don’t seem particularly fond of the 5’s ways. They get nervous and surprised that I observe and read them well. I get nervous when they observe and read my emotions well, but incredibly frustrated when they misread me otherwise. I watch and learn from them from afar.
The 8s try to dominate at first. When they realise that although I’m quiet, I hold my ground, there’s a nod of respect between our “inner tigers”. They give unsolicited life advice and then get surprised when I’m more intelligent than they think.
The 2w3 is an instant turn-off, for both sides.
The 7s write me off as dumb and stupid at first. When they hear me speak, they realise otherwise and start to get intrigued. They become invasive and follow me around like puppies. (And perhaps this is how the 4s perceive me.)
I knew a fellow 5 before. We clicked instantly. We shared the same views and agreed on the important concepts, but were the opposites in all other areas and aspects. I didn’t know this back then, but our MBTI cognitive functions differed. It didn’t last long.